Death

[Steel]

Been looking into the eyes of death for a few years now. Its starting to get to me is the problem. For the last 10 years I get involved in what I call death and dieing. Going thru a rather tough time as I am watching a very good friend die from cancer and we just buried a 58 year old friend today. She died after a long battle from brain cancer. What a special lady ,met her coaching football as her son was on my team. Special lady to say the least. It feels good to go in and talk to people you know when they are dieing. I encourage all of you to give your time. It might sound horrible to you now but give it a try you may never feel so alive. So many people today die all alone. I watched this years ago when my brother died of AIDS. Some people sat in glass rooms next to my brother and they would never get guests. Die all alone because their families are to embarrassed. Its giving back to the people, hoping and helping to keep them at peace in their final journey. Nothing makes me feel as good as helping those dieing. Some day you may be in these shoes so please reach out and touch those in need. I brought up my friend in here over a year ago. He is a vet that went thru 2 tours in Vietnam. I ask that you all say a prayer for Jim Monroe because we are in probably the final battle of his life. What this man means to my family is unmeasureable. In his case we have out lived the doctors time but its obvious to me now that this could also be borrowed time. Help the dieing you will never feel so good. I know Jim and I will be sharing laughs up until his last breath. This one is just going to mean more and hurt more to say the least. Either way my friend will not walk alone. RIP Nancy

[CodyG]

Cancer is the worst one out there, Im young only 23 and my life also has been filled with deaths related too cancer. Seems too run in my family on both sides. Im not as strong as you though. when it comes too death, I cant handle it good at all. And as much as I hate talking about it, I may have cancer. going for more tests on the 26th. Im hoping test comes back as good news.

I will pray for your friend Jim monroe. Hope you get threw the tough time ok.

[JRSPATS]

Condolences Steel, Hang in there Cody, been there twice, 9 years cancer free since a stem cell transplant in 2001.

[Deck]

Sorry to hear steel. I will say a prayer for both your friends.

[baseballcoach]

Steel, I read your reply to a thread about Cats. I sure wish I knew someone as good as you around here. I have a 12 year old that's going down hill and there is not much I can do for her. I know it's my problem and my fault I have not saved for this situation, I guess it's just something we never really want to prepare for.

I don't think your friend could ask for a better person to spend his last days with.

[Steel]

Originally Posted by baseballcoach

Steel, I read your reply to a thread about Cats. I sure wish I knew someone as good as you around here. I have a 12 year old that's going down hill and there is not much I can do for her. I know it's my problem and my fault I have not saved for this situation, I guess it's just something we never really want to prepare for.

I don't think your friend could ask for a better person to spend his last days with.

Just saw this message. Whats wrong with your cat? Its Jan 19th. And by the way, I could not ask for a better friend. Went and spent Sunday night with him. We watched the Jets game together and then sat around and BS. The next morning I got him out of the house and we went to breakfast. I am a better person for having someone like Jim Monroe in my life.

[the penguin]

had a buddy that was going downhill from pancreatic cancer. i had one day off a week and would go to his favorite mexican food place and get a qt of those beans to go. he loved those things. i would go to his house every wednesday and spend a few hours with him while he ate those beans. he used to say that was about all he could keep down. finally he moved in with his brother and asked me to quit coming when the end was near. rip fred.
cancer runs in my family. i try to do a little something by going to the local blood bank and giving platelettes to tx childrens hospital about once or twice a month.

[Steel]

Penguin, your a class act. Giving blood is a great idea. Keep giving your time because its people like you that make this a better place for all of us.

[the penguin]

Originally Posted by Steel

Penguin, your a class act. Giving blood is a great idea. Keep giving your time because its people like you that make this a better place for all of us.

thx man. i just realized that it cost nothing to give and its always needed. i appreciate it.

[RICKS PICKS]

I feel for your friend.I read this as I just got back from visitimg my friend.She is a 42 year old mother of 2.An 18 month old and a 5 year old.She is in a cancer ward in a convelescent hospital.She has been fighting breast cancer for 4 years and it went into remission 3 years ago.She wanted to have another baby and did have a beautiful perfect girl who is 18 months old now.I guess the increased hormone level from being pregnant fed or woke up the supposed dorment cancer.Her family and friends have spent all kinds of time and money sending her to treatment clinics here and in Mexico.The one that helped her the most is in Mexico believe it or not.It helped sustain her life longer than expected.Also the fight in this girl is so strong I believe many would have given up long ago.I have always seen that in her in other areas of life.I also guess thats one of the many reasons we are friends is her spirit.But a real comforting thing that is helping is all the loving support she is getting from friends and a very caring family.She will not die alone,I think this gives her added peace of mind.I have lost my Grandmother,Aunts,Father ,Father in-law,a roommate,and many friends to this horrible disease.Each a tragic case that involved alot of suffering ,pain ,discomfort,embarrasement,financial stress and more.Enough with this horrible disease,to take a mother,wife ,friend ,sister and daughter.Please pray for my friend Sheri,as I have seen this before ,she is not long for this world.

[Steel]

Rick, your a good man and she will be added to my list. Not sure where you are in Northern Cali but she is lucky to have you around. God speed

[RICKS PICKS]

Thanks Steel.Our freind Sheri passed yesterday,1-28- friday at 4 pm.She leaves my friend ,her husband a widower at 43 ,with 2 daughters 18 months and 5 years.Her father loses his youngest daughter to breast cancer.6 years after losing his wife ,and the mother of all 3 of his girls to breast cancer.I am tired of losing family,friends,coworkers etc etc.To this horrible disease.I have thought and I cant rememberall the people that I have known,been related to,acquianted ,that have died of cancer in general.I am only 48 ,so I can imagine if I live to my 70's how many more I will know.Somthing has to be done ,I just dont know what.Breast cancer is probably the most disheartining though.Maybe because it affects mothers.But I am sure glad that the NFL has awareness month.I would be up to a CM drive next year if we all did something to donate from CM.DR Jack would have to take the donations, and arrange the thread.But I definatly would donate some money if we collectively recognized Breast cancer month.I am just so sad it is 10 months away.BTW I live near Roseville Calif.

[oakas]

I know what you mean, Steel.

I have been pretty lucky throughout my life, but the last 9 months have been very hard on me.

First off my best friend dies of lung cancer in April.
My father succumbed to bone cancer in June.
Two weeks after my dad's funeral my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer.
My second best friend hung himself in August.

Rough year.

[Steel]

Cancer, we have to find a cure. I enjoyed reading the post that others left here. We have to find a cure way to many good people dieing. We enter the final stage with my friend Jim Monroe. Its horrible to watch but more then anything I want him to be at peace and as comfortable as we can make him. You never know when your time is up so please take this time to tell someone that you love them. I am going to lose the best friend a person could ever ask for. Its life and its a lesson that will make me stronger for the next person that needs my help. This man is gold and the time we spent to together is priceless. I hate cancer and I would not wish this on my worst enemy. God bless those of you that are struggling. God Speed.