Fiance just left

[ParrotHead]

I thought about posting this in the Im drunk thread, but thought it would be better/get more advice with a different thread

22, gonna be 23 in July. Just moved in with my fiance in September. She packed up some on her shit tonite and left. Seems our relationship went south. I love her more than anything. (Note) Had one other serious relationship and that bitch ended our relationship on my birthday. I didnt fight for her like I did my fiance. Someone please help me. Not sure what to do/where to go on this

Edit: Only forum I felt comfortable posting this is

[Windy City Irish]

dude. in all honesty. you should not be engaged at 22 years old. live life, experience people, places and things.....I understand what love can do, but there are so many things you need to learn out there on your own and being single

this is just a hiccup in the road man....my wife's brother broke off a 7 year relationship with his fiance ( he is 24) because he realized that he needed to live a little and grow up on his own.

you will change who you are as a person so much in your 20's and into your 30's. trust me! better to learn who you are first before committing to something so HUGE now

JMO

[Deck]

it hurts now but it will get better. surround yourself with friends now bro. they will help you.

or go get shit faced and **** a nasty whore. that will help for a couple days

[Bisket]

you wont care about her a year from now

[westcoastO]

hey man keep your head up. i think she most definitely has a fear of the unknown right now and this isn't necessarily permanent. though i'd definitely hope that if she was "mature enough" to be engaged that she'd be mature enough to talk this out with you and let you know EXACTLY what's wrong and why.

it's the same song and dance advice wise whenever something like this happens. "it will get better" "you'll move on" "you'll find someone new" etc

as much as these things are all cliche and seem overused, they are honestly true. there's a lot more than just being hurt because she left you. it's a feeling of inferiority and insecurity that every guy, whether he admits it or not, goes through.

what i can tell you though, is that if you have your head on straight and are focused on getting yourself ahead in all aspects of your life and a genuine person that every single one of those cliches is 100% true. it NEVER seems like it when the toilet is flushing but of the 22,000 (or so) members here, i would assume that 21,500 of us are living proof that tough times don't last and tough people do.

if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. but even if she does come back, question whether or not she's sincere and loyal enough to be in this with you for the long haul. she's obviously got some growing up and soul searching to do herself, so wait and see and hopefully you can judge her character and true intentions before you just blindly think with your heart.

hope it works out for you. until next time this has been dr. phil, aka WCO

[Bisket]

get on the px90 program so that next time you run into her she'll feel stupid for leaving you.

[Bobtheicon]

It doesn't seem like it now, but this is probably the best thing that has ever happened to you. You'll see. This is a gift, man!!

And remember - The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

[Davydave]

Originally Posted by Windy City Irish

dude. in all honesty. you should not be engaged at 22 years old. live life, experience people, places and things.....I understand what love can do, but there are so many things you need to learn out there on your own and being single

JMO

WCI = Truth

[Mendoza Line]

Gotta agree with Big Dan here.

Best thing you can do is not fight for her. Get out there. Play a few games. That girl is more likely to come back when she can't figure out why you aren't stalking her. Bang a couple hundred chicks and forget it, at least for a while. You aren't who you will be in 10 years.

You think you know what you want right now; you don't. When I was your age I was still in college, had probably only been with about 25 girls, and was concerned with which girl was hot enough and popular enough to be seen with.

Went through about 500 others afterwards, mostly groupies. Grew up a good bit, didn't become a completely different person, but definitely changed my dating style as I moved along.

[Windy City Irish]

all solid advice here. please dont listen to bisket though as his knowledge of women is VERY limited

gl though sir!

[Steel]

Your way to young to be even talking about getting married. Keep your head up and I wish the best. The first week is tough after that you will surely be on to your next skirt.

[secondbase]

many great words of wisdom- do not forget her though, she will always have a place in your heart and mind- BUT
things will change for the better- They always do, IF , you let them.
Been there , and I thought there was no other- past up a lot of good chances too while I was in ' mourning ' . Always had faith in that the right opportunity will come- and it does, sometimes even more than once. I don't regret either one of my marriages and probably could have made a life with a couple others that were in my life.

As I have always told my kids, and they are around your age . " Do the best you can at anything and everything you do . " That is all anyone can ask. All anyone should ask.,

[ParrotHead]

Haha. Thanks guys. Reading this helped, prob cuz im hammered, but probably cuz everyone is right. Anyways, WestCoast, my dad told me exactly the same thing when the last bitch left, and everything worked out fine. It just sucks now because we bought a house and its in both of our names and what not. I aint got shit for furniture or appliancs when she takes it all, but I guess its better than divorce aint. Bisket, im not trying to feel sorry for myself or think about her, but her dad just started that P90x bullshit and I dont want anything to do with it. **** that anyways, Ill stick to being a skinny drunk kid.

Its just a shitty feeling now you know. Ive been through this before and Im sure it will happen again, just sucks when it does you know. Thanks for all the advice guys. Will definitely look back on this and make myself a stronger and better person

[ParrotHead]

Shit, second, steel and windy you all replied right before I did. Thanks to you all. I do believe she will always hold a special place with me and always be friends with her no matter what. It was fun while it lasted and although I am not sure what will happen in the future I cant say I regret anything

[Mendoza Line]

BTW, agree with Steel....way too young. So much will change for you.

Gets much better in a few days. Personally, I was a wreck for a couple days before.

If it's any indication of how much will change over the next several years, I just married a girl I wouldn't have talked to when I was your age.