Little Bro Killed By Drunk Driver

inSite · #1 12-19-2011, 01:40 PM

10 days ago my little brother was on the way home from work when a drunk driver came over the center line and hit him head on. He had just turned 24. He was my only brother and my best friend. A major blood vessel was cut and he lived for about 2 more hours.

I have never lost anyone close and the way this happened so suddenly adds to it. I am not handling it well. Has anyone else experienced something similar that can share anything helpful?

Romanowski · #2 12-19-2011, 01:43 PM

wow bro

hard to swallow being a drunk driver

sorry for your loss

have not lost someone close to me..yet.. so cant relate or help there

aztriman · #3 12-19-2011, 01:44 PM

I can't imagine how painful this would be. Just try to remember what your bro would want for you- only the best. If the situation were reversed imagine what you tell your bro from the other side. Hopefully you'll make it through man. Hoping the best for you!

LadyDawn · #4 12-19-2011, 01:52 PM

so sad n i'm damn angry too !

24 yrs old not even at prime of his life and taken from you because of an ignorant fook !

i have seen friends who lost family members to drunk drivers or who's family was injured for life so i do know how you feel ! It's hard and crazy the way God works !

i suggest you seek help and talk this out with others in groups who have lost family or close ones to drunks ! Thats the only advice i can give you !

big huggggggggg for you and prayer goes out to your brother !

Bozzie · #5 12-19-2011, 02:03 PM

Fuk... So sad.. I'm really sorry for you and your family.

Patriots Game · #6 12-19-2011, 02:05 PM

Sorry for your loss InSite. He will live on thru you.

ksturg · #7 12-19-2011, 02:10 PM

Back in 2001 my wifes brother (who was also my best friend) was killed in a car accident. He also was 24 at the time, as was I. My wife and I were just dating at the time, but we stayed together and eventually got married. My son is actually named after him.

Losing him was a huge loss for both of us, so I know what you are feeling. There really isn't anything I can tell you from our experience that would make it easier for you to deal with. All I can tell you is that time heals all wounds, and years down the road the sadness you have will be replaced to some extent by happy memories of the person. We laugh and joke now when talking about him and how he was instead of crying, so make sure you talk to people. Not sure if your parents are still around, but if so I would stay very involved with them and help them through this. My wifes parents took the loss very hard, and still struggle sometimes. I couldn't imagine losing my child, so make sure you are understanding of them while you also deal with your grief at the same time.

Very sorry for your loss man, take care.

countryboy7477 · #8 12-19-2011, 02:14 PM

I have lost someone close to me in this same manner. I was much younger and it was a girlfriend of several years. The fact is time is about the only thing that will heal this hole or void you will feel. I am terribly sorry to hear about your loss and I hope you find some comfort to get you thru the hard time.

In my case it was a narrow country road and the car I was driving topped the hill the same time this other car did. I have no memory of what happened. Thankfully there was some witnesses so they could tell what happened. The ole drunk guy driving the other car never even stopped. The witnesses say that my car really had no place to go due to the other car hogging the narrow road. I hit a culvert and my tire blew. We shot across the road and hit a tree head on. I was lucky to live according to the docs but of course I didn't feel that way for a long long time. It somewhat helped me when I talked with a doctor after a month of me being in the hospital and he explained to me that had she lived thru the wreck that she wouldn't have been able to live a normal life and probably would have had to been cared for by a nurse or family member the rest of her life. She died on impact and that helped ease my mind a little.
It helps to talk about it and let it out for sure.

Jahred · #9 12-19-2011, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by aztriman

I can't imagine how painful this would be. Just try to remember what your bro would want for you- only the best. If the situation were reversed imagine what you tell your bro from the other side. Hopefully you'll make it through man. Hoping the best for you!

agree, sorry for your loss insite

grzftbl · #10 12-19-2011, 02:14 PM

So sorry man. Lost my big bro who was also like my Dad. Not that my Dad was a bad guy, it's that he worked his ass of for everything he/we got.

My bro fell 13'4" off a grain car (railroad car that hauls grain). It's a sad day. You go from why to how to why to how. I took it hard, very hard.

An Aunt told me just remember how good a guy he was, remember the good times you had and remember it was just a crummy accident (her words, not mine-lol). As horrible as that sounds, it helped.

Sorry for your loss. This is the tough times--Holiday's/birthday's. Think of the happy times. Think of things he did that made you laugh. He's looking down at you, wanting the best for you and your family.

Stay positive, that's what your bro would want.