My grandmother....

[Steel]

Originally Posted by Windy City Irish

so a moral question for CM


my grandmother has been living with dementia now for 10 years and of course it has gotten worse as time has gone along to the point that she has no clue who her children or grandchildren are, able to make a coherent sentence, or even walk.

i got word yesterday that she is in the hospital and her health is quite poor. she is no longer eating, she is basically a vegetable mumbling to herself all day in her room, and physically breaking down.

is it wrong for me to want this to end! I mean, who wants to live like that. I just feel bad for "kind of" wanting her to pass away so she can just be peaceful and not live in this kind of state anymore.

This is a special time for your family. Never feel bad about wanting you family not to suffer. I have said for some time now that Animals have it better as they get a shot and go to sleep. Your grandmother is most likely waiting for you all to say goodbye. Its important that you tell your grandmother that you love her and let her know its time to go see your grandfather. Death is the final stage and for some they need a push. Remember that when your family has had enough that you can always add extra Morphin to help her rest and slip off in peace. I wish you and your family the best enjoy her now and help her slip off into a better place. Godspeed

[ghoopin]

Have very similar stuff going on in my family Dan. I have a grandfather in a care center and he basically just lays in bed all day, no TV or anything. Just laying there waiting to pass. My grandmother has had some problems, but they have her on some meds and will be able to deterimine in a few months if it is memory or hardening of the arteries. Hang in there, I know I have days many emotions. Sad, frustrated, numb, you name it. Just put it in the hands of God and do your best to get through it one day at a time.

[Burgh Brew Crew]

Had similiar experience happen with my grandmother almost ten years ago. My grandfather used to have heart problems and if he went to the hospital I would stop by to see my grandmother and make sure she was ok. After awhile see never knew who I was and the one time I arrived first and then my dad and she turned to my dad to tell him that she wasnt "entertaining a younger man". She passed when I was deployed and never got to attend the funeral. My dad told me later on as time passed she forgot almost everything from how to go to the bathroom to how to feed herself. When it progresses this far it does seem inhumane for them to suffer. Always said I don't want to live forever when I cant care for myself anymore take me out back and put some deer antlers on my head.

[secondbase]

GL Windy
Reminder to all that when our loved ones leave, they are going to a better place - at least a better place and better piece of mind than they were in or departed.
I was with my Grandmother when she actually past- and it was a little bit eerie.
It was in the hospice room .
She was rather out of it too, but we had a good last minute talk ( whispers actually ) about how proud we were of her etc- then she pointed to the opposite wall with some expressions that she was obviously seeing something and her hand went to her mouth - she saw something- and within minutes was gone.
Still leaves me with chills as I am sure she saw her maker coming for her.

[Windy City Irish]

can't believe she is still around. she keeps battling back everytime they write her off.

anyway, thanks again to everyone for their contributions to this thread

[Windy City Irish]

Originally Posted by Windy City Irish

so a moral question for CM


my grandmother has been living with dementia now for 10 years and of course it has gotten worse as time has gone along to the point that she has no clue who her children or grandchildren are, able to make a coherent sentence, or even walk.

i got word yesterday that she is in the hospital and her health is quite poor. she is no longer eating, she is basically a vegetable mumbling to herself all day in her room, and physically breaking down.

is it wrong for me to want this to end! I mean, who wants to live like that. I just feel bad for "kind of" wanting her to pass away so she can just be peaceful and not live in this kind of state anymore.

grandmother passed away this morning at 1030AM ET.

was amazing that she battled so much or held on since i posted this in early May

relief and sadness are both feelings to experience but Im glad she is not a vegetable anymore and can go rest in peace

w c i

[Dr. Jack]

Sorry to hear that Dan. Thoughts out to your family

[Chris46139]

Very sorry Dan, we're here for you buddy, no matter how prepared you are its never easy when it does happen. May she rest in peace

[Seanie Mac]

sorry Dan

[GO_LEAFS_GO]

so sorry, mate....have my own Grandmother starting down that same road....

thank you for sharing this story and walk; as I'm sure it was hard but you haven't done it alone.

[Windy City Irish]

just tough.....tough to know that its something you want to happen but at the same time you realize that your last grandparent is gone...

i had a very rough childhood and this woman was a very big factor in making sure i was on the right path

with Dementia the last 10 years was taken away from her and us and its just sad that i cant remember what it was like when she was a huge part of my life...

in the end its good that she is now going to rest in peace....and we can all just appreciate the fact that she was with us for so long

thanks everyone!! this thread was not intended to be a pity party...just happy that she is now resting....and hopefully can link up with my grandfather who at this point may have played so much golf in the after life that he is ready to just chill

[FalconFreak]

Sorry for your loss, Im sure she will always be remembered by you as the woman she was.

[Keith]

my sincere condolences Dan.

[ace bdream]

So sorry , grandmothers are great ,,, my passed away when i was 15, god did it messed me up , still does i was called out of school to say goodbye, she was like out of it, my mom said gmom Mikey here , i held her hand , and she smile, thoug she was out of it, she passed like a liitle later , i couldnt even go up to the casket , i had to stay in the back and in the bathroom. God i can rember every thing that happen them 3 days , again sorry for your loss, rember all the good.

[JETMAN]

Sorry for your loss lad.do not ever feel guilty.that is our catholic upbringing,lol!!no laughing but celebrate her life,your life and this life we live in,because the tree outside of our window will be here longer than us.god bless