When's a good time to have kids?

[dhunter]

I have a feeling you guys are going to say never lol. But I'm turning 34 in 2 weeks and have been married for 2 yrs. We're thinking it's time. I don't want to be an old dad.

[Victor]

When you have your finances in check. I see to many people have kids and can`t even afford to take care of themselves. 34 is not old to have a kid.

[RanPicks]

Adopt a Russsian 22 year old... low maintenance, and you'll want to keep it maintained...

[Yankee23]

Do not even consider having children until you have goten rid of all the selfishness in your life

I was 35 when my first daughter was born

[Romanowski]

men dont shoot blanks until we're 70+

if shes not pressuring yet, I wouldnt push it necessarily

once yo have kids the dynamic of your relationship changes, enjhoy the long honeymoon as much as you can

[Windy City Irish]

ive been married two years as well. me 36, wife 31. we are waiting for another 2-4 years.

if im going to bring a child into this world its going to be the right time and make sure we are in the perfect place to do so

[cptkirk321]

1. When you are financially able to have kids because they are quite an expense.

2. When you realize your life now changes dramatically and your wife now becomes more of a mother than a wife and you can handle that huge change in your life.

3. Unfortunately the longer you wait the more chances of problems for the mother and the child. Once the mother is 35 they are classified as higher risk pregnancies and the more of a chance that birth defects could be an issue. When we had our second child my wife was 36 and they showed us a chart of the chances of birth defects as you get older and it was quite amazing to see how the odds change of having a healthy baby as the mothers age increases, now thankfully we were blessed to have two healthy children.

Good luck whenever you decide to have them, they are quite a blessing to have and to look into their eyes and know they love you just because you are Daddy cannot be beat.

[RanPicks]

just read a study on yahoo a couple days ago... more sex decreses the amount of sperm with dna damage...

no BS...

[guzzi]

keep 'er fresh...

[dave nz]

If you decide against it, get a vasectomy and avoid all the hassle.

[rjb1816]

i'm shooting for like 33-35...all depends tho. gotta get married first

[cptkirk321]

Originally Posted by RanPicks

just read a study on yahoo a couple days ago... more sex decreses the amount of sperm with dna damage...

no BS...

Read the same thing, here is the article

http://www.seattlepi.com/health/1500...rm_damage.html

[RanPicks]

Originally Posted by cptkirk321

Read the same thing, here is the article

http://www.seattlepi.com/health/1500...rm_damage.html

this needs to be put on a monument somewhere for all you married guys (well, most of you)...

[dhunter]

I hear you guys about being able to afford kids but can anyone really afford them? What I mean is there's always something you want to buy. We just bought a new house, need to landscape the yard, wife wants a new car soon, etc. If you wait until you're debt free and have everything you want, you'll never have kids. People seem to find a way to make it work.

[dhunter]

Originally Posted by cptkirk321

3. Unfortunately the longer you wait the more chances of problems for the mother and the child. Once the mother is 35 they are classified as higher risk pregnancies and the more of a chance that birth defects could be an issue. When we had our second child my wife was 36 and they showed us a chart of the chances of birth defects as you get older and it was quite amazing to see how the odds change of having a healthy baby as the mothers age increases, now thankfully we were blessed to have two healthy children.

that is my biggest worry